Blue Dildo = Masturbation

The code word for masturbation is blue dildo.  Sue Johanson of Talk Sex with Sue Johanson on the Oxygen network is often holding a blue dildo on her show.

A great example of a blue dildo is the G Freak Blue Jellie Dong with suction cup by Doc Johnson.  This dildo also work very well with the Heeldo.

The vibrator has its place in cinematic history.  The great film, Attack of the Blue Dildo was an instant cult classic as soon as it hit the silver screen.  Although a B-rated low budget film, this dark, sexy comedy immediately struck a chord with the indie crowd.  If you can't find it at a local big-box retailer, check out some of the smaller shops with specialty collections.  I have seen it on auction sites and at flea markets.  This film is a must seen for anyone who loves a sex toy with their popcorn.  

The Single Guy’s Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle

Single guys in the lifestyle are often seen as opportunists who are just out for a good time and can’t be trusted which is why they are not allowed into most swingers clubs and parties. Where does that leave you? Well, at a disadvantage but all is not lost.

Many couples do actively seek and enjoy single guys and with the right information and a little forethought single guys can enjoy the swinging lifestyle. Here are somethings you must know.

Join an online swinger personals or lifestyle site such as Kasidie.com

Set up a single guy profile and be honest, DO NOT set up a couples profile and pretend you have a hall pass.  We will see right through that and you will end up looking stupid. Search and communicate with couples looking for single guys. Post a full face photo or, if you can’t do that, upload a “private” photo that you can exchange with a couple that expresses an interest. Don’t send the cock shot as your opening photo, no matter how big it is !

Pay for your membership

The #1 rule for single guys – PAY FOR YOUR MEMBERSHIP! If you have a free profile on a swingers or personal site then you look like you are trawling for pussy.  Most of the active members of the website will be paying members so use this to your advantage.  If you can’t be bothered to maintain a profile at $20 a month then you ain’t a lifestyler. And we won’t play with you.

Setup an Interesting Profile

Post as much information about yourself as possible. Give a good description of yourself as well as good description of the type of encounter you are looking for. Also, provide a good idea of your location; If you are willing to travel, make that clear. Post some pictures that show off your personality, sites like Kasidie.com have private photo albums for paying members so you can feel safe about posting pictures.

Put some thought into your introductory email.

“Wanna fuck” or “meet me tonight” will almost certainly get you deleted and blocked. Introduce yourself, read the couples profile and quote something from it to prove you have taken the time to read it, ask to be considered for future liaisons.Once you have made contact be very respectful, not only of them but also of their boundaries. Remember, you are the third party.  If it is a truly secure couple that are in love with each other, you are there for their enjoyment and pleasure. That’s not to say that you aren't expected to enjoy yourself too. They should be as respectful to you as you are to them.

Pick up your share of the expenses

Be fair and willing to pick up your share of the expenses if, say, you go to a hotel room or a bar. This is not a free lunch.

Do not be pushy

By all means be confident but do not be pushy or try to rush things. If you have got to the meeting in person stage it’s probably a done deal so go at their pace. Do not become emotionally attached, or make calls to the wife without the husband’s full knowledge and approval.

Show up

Make sure you are punctual and show up when agreed to. If you are running late, send a txt. If you can’t make it, let the couple know as soon as you know you are not going to be able to make it. Hotels cost $ and the let down can have other implications too for the couple who may have been fantasizing about their play date.

Be Smart

If you have a threesome with another couple, be mindful of the role that you are playing and where you fit into the relationship with the other couple. You must be absolutely discrete.  This means, you can’t brag to your friends about the couple you are “scoring” with.  Discretion is the hallmark of this lifestyle.

NO MEANS NO!

No if’s, and’s or but’s. Period. End of discussion. Regardless of how much you may have been intimate with this couple, if either party says no for any reason, stop immediately. This sword cuts both ways as well. You should never be expected to do anything that you don’t want to do. Be yourself. Never put on airs, or try to be someone you are not. People can see right through this and, even if you fool a couple early on, eventually they will see through you.

Compliment the woman but don’t forget the husband

Tell her how hot, beautiful and sexy she is. Don’t overlook the husband’s ego either. This doesn’t mean you have to be phony, just be honest. But, after all, you did approach this couple because there was some attraction. Others may disagree, but if you’re just looking to get laid, this will leave many couples stone cold. Of course, sex is the key reason for people being in this lifestyle, but there are many other reasons people engage in this lifestyle including the desire to have fun and make new friends.

Don’t Lie and Cheat

If you are a married guy swinging without your wife be honest about that fact. However, if you are a married guy swinging without your wife and you do not have her consent to do so then you are NOT swinging, you are cheating and most swingers will not only avoid you like the plague but make sure that you are found out. Remember swinging is about honest and open relationships, not lying and cheating.

And, finally...

Prepare yourself for a lot of rejection.

This again is nothing against you. It’s just as you said, there are lots of single guys out there competing with you. If you are genuine, pay for your profile, send intelligent emails and are mindful of all the above, the single guy in the lifestyle can have a LOT of fun! It just takes a bit of time and effort on your part.

Swingtastic is half of a swinger lifestyle couple.  He is also the proprietor of Swingtastic Toys, which specializes in adult sex toys and novelties, catering to the swinging lifestyle.

This public service announcement brought to you by Swingtastictoys.com and Kasidie.com

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Toys for Boys – Sex Toys That Every Man Needs

It used to be that the only sex toys available for men were “pocket pussies” and sex dolls. Women usually have a few sex toys in the nightstand drawer, but, men usually lack the essential toys to further enhance their personal sex lives. The following toys are those that the 21st century male can’t and shouldn’t do without.

• Fleshlight- The number one men’s sex toy in the world, and therefore number one on  the list. This male masturbation toy comes in over 160 varieties. The original Fleshlight Lady has evolved into various models that include vaginal, oral and anal inserts. Each model has a varying degree of tightness and texture to simulate different orifices.  There is a line of toys called Fleshlight Girls, which are designed to look and feel like porn stars, such as Jenna Haze, Misty Stone, Jesse Jane, Teagen Presley, Tera Patrick and Stoya. One of the latest models is the Fleshlight Alien, the design taken from the film ‘Avatar’. All Fleshlights clean easy with simple soap and warm water.
• Tenga Eggs – This Japanese import comes discreetly packaged in a small plastic egg. Tenga makes a variety of textures, all of which are out of this world. Originally designed for Japanese men, they have been adapted to meet the size of American males.  Tenga eggs come in a variety of textures: Twister – vertical ones ripples, Wavy – horizontal ripples, Silky – a thread-spun surface, Spider – lined with a web pattern, Clicker – protruding spheres, Stepper – notched out semi-circles.
• Prostate Massagers – Women have the g-spot, men have the p-spot. One of the most popular prostate massagers is the Talon. A prostate orgasm is absolutely mind-blowing and should be experienced by every man.
• Cock rings – These toys come in both vibrating and non-vibrating varieties. The rings not only enhance pleasure, they also can prolong orgasms.

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• Pjur Man lubricants - There are lubes and there are lubes. This silicone-based lubricant is geared toward men and whether playing alone or with a partner, will significantly enhance and heighten pleasure.  It will be the best fuck you’ve had in a while.
• Tenga Flip Hole – From the maker of the Tenga Egg comes another male masturbation toy. This one is made with elastomer, a silicone material, which gives it the its ultra-soft touch and feel. The texture feels like nothing you’ve felt before.
• Sex dolls – Once reserved for old school bachelor parties, today’s love doll is nothing like those of the past. Dolls originally manufactured were nothing more than a plastic blow-up doll made of the same material as a dollar store pool float. These dolls are made to look and feel just like a real person, both inside and out. HBO’s ‘Real Sex’ did a story on sex dolls where men AND couples described in depth what they enjoyed about their dolls why some men preferred them over the real thing.
• Oral simulators – If you are looking for some oral satisfaction and can’t find a willing partner (or you want it NOW and don’t want to wait for an able mouth) then this toy will fulfill your urges.  It’s basically the blow-job that swallows and doesn’t talk back.
• Vibrating masturbators – These little gems, originally called ”pocket pussies”, are designed to be discreet or overt as you choose. Usually battery powered, these toys simulate the vagina and come in multi-speed models. Similar to the Fleshlight, there are many different models with varying degrees of tightness and texture. Also, you can find these vibrating masturbators fashioned after the pussies’ of porn stars.  There is also a host of ‘pocket asses’ too!
• Liberator sex furniture - one item that won’t fit in the drawer is piece of ‘furniture’ from Liberator. Liberator makes high quality pieces for the bedroom (or the living room) that lets couples (and friends) explore new positions and situations in love-making.  The Liberator furniture line comes in various colors and shapes, including wedges, chairs, ramps and blankets.

Men should no longer worry about missing out on the fun and satisfaction of sex toys made for them. Get sucked or fuck yourself til your heart’s content.  And ladies, if your man doesn’t have a toy of his own, give him the gift of that keeps on giving.  For a full selection of men’s sex toys, condoms and erotic games, check out Swingtastic Toys.